Transition:No Country for Light-weights

Transgender. To change one’s gender cannot by definition be part-time. It isn’t casual or frivolous. It isn’t done for thrills or easy kicks. People who go through all the expense, pain and difficulty in changing genders have to be committed to a very serious and difficult process, especially those who transition later in life.

As I lay on my back recently in my electrologist’s office I pondered some of the new anti Transgender laws being passed or considered by State legislators. Here I lay having each of my remaining gray facial hairs zapped from my face one at a time. About one shock every ten seconds. And by shock I mean a small needle is inserted into a hair follicle in my face, often in some exceptionally sensitive location like around my lips or right under my nose. Then a painful electrical current is administered through it thus killing that hair. I do this in two hour sessions once a week. By the time I’m done I’m shaking and sweating from the effort to tolerate the pain. Who in their right mind would go through something like this unless they felt deeply compelled to do so?

How about shooting myself up with Estrogen every 2 weeks? Now THAT’s a party! My compound prescription is so viscous it has to be drawn through a heavy gauge needle and then injected into a large muscle. I typically go for my quadricep on the top of my thigh. No big artery I can puncture there and easily accessible. I have to relax or the muscle becomes too tense and the needle won’t penetrate easily. Once inserted it takes over a minute to inject the thick compound during which time I attempt to relax. I usually ice the area afterward to keep the muscle from becoming painful or swollen. The prescription is costly and my insurance often only covers part of it. Sometimes I can’t get the covered brand at all and have to pay full price. It’s either that or I experience an extended bout of PMS and my hard earned female traits began to sag. There are oral Estrogen tablets but to this point I haven’t found any that work as well. In addition taking hormones orally is hard on the liver. Anyone want to join me?

How about the daily concern of being “read” as Trans? Since my facial surgery I haven’t worried much about this but I assure you I spent my share of time in that psychological nightmare. I can say without any hesitation that the middle is the most challenging place to occupy between genders. If you want it to go smoothly jump across that divide or you will be torn to shreds. I have many friends who have been marginalized and discriminated against in every possible way. Some are even attacked or killed. It ain’t pretty and no one chooses this life lightly.  Once again, volunteers?

Statistically something like 1 person in 10,000 will be Transgender. Of those perhaps only a small portion will actually attempt to transition. That means the likelihood of encountering someone who is Trans is extremely low. Even lower to encounter them in a restroom. To pass laws that target this small group seems disproportionate to the concern. As far as I know there has never been an incident of anyone being attacked or molested by a Trans person in a restroom. Quite the opposite for the Trans person. Violence is visited upon them regularly for any imagined or potential flaw. Usually for just being different. Many find the trek so bleak they attempt to take their own life. Recent surveys show that almost 50% of Trans people have contemplated suicide. It’s beyond cruel to pass laws that single them out for more hate and fear. To hope for people to think rationally and not respond to media hype has proven impossible. Any reasonable person who considers the reality of being Trans would see that the people who do attempt the arduous journey aren’t doing so they can jump children in a public bathroom but out of a deep need to find themselves.

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